Divorce, Separation, Co-Parenting
Therapy | Culver City, California, Nevada, & Idaho
Coping with Relationship Changes
“For many people the pain of a divorce is only partially about the loss of the other person; often it’s just as much about what that change represents – failure, rejection, betrayal, the unknown, and a different life story than the one they’d expected.” - Lori Gottlieb
Change can be painful, especially when it involves the end of a partnership. In divorce or separation, moving past the pain can feel like an endless journey. When children are involved, it becomes even more vital to seek perspective and support to reduce stress on the family.
Issues like division of assets, custody arrangements, moves, and introducing new partners often stir strong emotions. Therapy can help navigate through these complex emotions with care and fairness, while keeping your children's best interests in mind.
During this period, you'll experience a rollercoaster of emotions, from grief and anger to joy and confusion, hopefully all headed in the long-term direction of peace. Having a non-judgmental space to benefit from reflective and engaged listening while you make decisions for your next steps is a wonderful way to transform this experience from one of pain to one of growth and healing.
Opportunity for Re-Growth
I view this time of change, not just as an ending, but also as an opportunity for regrowth. The end of a relationship presents a unique chance for you to reframe your identity and redefine your sense of self.
In a successful therapeutic experience, you will have the space to reflect on your past, re-evaluate your needs, and explore new possibilities for the future. Rather than dwelling in negative emotion, you will have a chance to work toward clear decision making and moving toward the things that you value and do want in your life while processing grief.
I work with individuals through their divorce/separation process, as well as with couples who want to work together to ensure that the process is as peaceful as possible. Many couples find that “Couples Therapy” as they divorce is a highly valuable use of their time and decreases the time and money spent on attorneys, as much of what needs to be decided between a couple in the divorce process is as tied up in an emotional experience as it is in the legal process.
For co-parents, I’ll help you understand the importance of providing stability and consistency to support your children's well-being during the transition, and help you develop the tools to be supportive parents as you nurture your children through this big change. Learning and practicing effective co-parenting strategies makes the divorce process smoother for you and your family.
Communication is often a significant source of conflict during these times. The aim of therapy is to equip you with essential tools and techniques to communicate more respectfully and constructively with each other. Learning healthier ways to express thoughts and emotions can lead to more productive conversations, reducing tension and facilitating a smoother process. It is also important, at this time, to understand that boundaries inevitably need to change as a couple separates. It takes time to move into these newly defined relationship roles, but therapy can expedite this process and, hopefully, reduce harm that is done to the relationship in the process.
Learning to Co-Exist
For co-parents, learning to co-exist peacefully and cooperatively is essential for the well-being of children. Though your romantic relationship is ending, if you are co-parents, you will need to maintain some form of relationship for many years to come. In therapy, we will discover how to navigate shared responsibilities and decision-making in a way that fosters a harmonious co-parenting relationship. By setting aside differences and focusing on the best interests of the children, you can create a stable and nurturing environment for your kids to thrive.
Support for Children
Divorce and separation can be emotionally challenging for children. Therapy sessions will address the emotional needs of your children. Together, we can discuss your children’s needs that will vary depending on your unique circumstances and their age.